Have you ever found yourself waking up at 3 or 4 am with your brain spinning a mile a minute? It can be easy to fall asleep but staying there is another matter. Brains tend to either focus on one issue at this time of day (night) or flit from one to the other. It can feel impossible to stop it when you are somewhere between sleep and awake. Your brain can feel wide awake but your body isn’t in sync and it’s a struggle to fall back asleep. Your alarm goes off and you know it’s going to be a rough day.
I’ve been playing around with different methods to alleviate this and have hit on one that seems to work time and time again.
First, here’s what has sometimes worked and sometimes not worked in the past. Forced relaxation is what my son calls it. It’s more like mediation. Focus your mind on your breathing or on the space beyond your closed eyes. Alternatively, relax your muscles progressively starting with your toes and working up through your body. First consciously tighten the body part then relax it. This works great when the stress isn’t overwhelming but I haven’t found it to work consistently.
Now, here’s what I’ve found to work fairly consistently over the years. The Power of Intention. This is a variation on the Law of Attraction. The Law of Attraction uses the ability to call into our lives whatever we are focusing on. The Power of Intention is a subset of that, the power behind the law. It’s what you begin with. It’s the thought you need to hold in your mind.
So, try intending to sleep. Set down that intention in your mind before bed, while getting into bed and while falling asleep. “I intend to sleep through until the alarm.” “I intend to sleep through the night.” Whatever calls to you, but put force behind the words. Mean it! Let me know how it goes.
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Step 1: Know what you really want
~ Brainstorm all of your goals and dreams for your life, including the ones you usually don’t allow yourself to want. Include areas of your life such as relationships, career, travel, money, health, etc.
~ Narrow down what your goals are in the next year and pick 1 to 4 to focus on. Step 2: Believe you can achieve it
~ Remind yourself of your past successes, achieved goals, and overcome challenges. Find the good that has always come out of every situation, even the painful ones.
~ Use positive affirmation statements to build your confidence. Make sure they are present tense (as if they’re already happening) and positive (focusing on what you want, not last of what you don’t want.) Step 3: Create a concrete plan for success
~Ensure your goals are SMART: Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic and Time Framed.
~ Create a structured plan by brainstorming everything you will need to do between now and when you reach your goal. Then break it down into what you can accomplish in the coming month, and then further into what you will work on this week.
~ Create accountability for yourself through an accountability partner, group, or coach. Step 4: Stay committed and motivated
~ Reflect on what activities you can do that get you into a motivated state (such as music, exercise, etc).
~ Reflect on what demotivates you the most, such as disorganization, conflict, negative people, etc.
~ Overcome procrastination by asking yourself how much pain you will cause yourself if you procrastinate and ultimately don’t achieve your goal. Then consider what pleasure you’ll receive if you stop procrastinating and get powerful moment moving toward your goal.
We are often unaware of our limiting beliefs because they were “passed down” to us by the attitudes and beliefs of others. As long as they remain unconscious (we are not aware of them) they can hold us back from achieving our fullest potential and experiencing joy. For example, if we have heard all of our life that money is the root of evil then we may consciously create situations that limit our financial success out of fear of that evil.
These beliefs are so “normal” that we rarely question their validity or consider how they affect our belief systems or make us unhappy. Of course, there is some truth and a good intention behind most of them, but consider which ones you have been conditioned to believe and how they have impacted your beliefs and your life.
“Money doesn’t grow on trees.” Good Intention: be intelligent with how you spend your money Conditioned fear: money scarcity; feeling there is not enough Potential Limits: not believing you can have what you want if it involves having money and therefore not going for it.
“You have to pay your your dues” Good Intention: it takes effort to get results Conditioned fear: you will have to suffer in order to be worthy of any pay off Potential Limits: feeling unworthy, you may not take opportunities or you may punish yourself for rewards and accomplishments you receive with ease
Can you think of one that applies to you?
Stay tuned and we’ll learn how to turn these beliefs around.
Perspective is everything when it comes to how we feel, and the words that we use are critical factors of our perspective. Last week, we chatted about limiting beliefs. Here is how to overcome those beliefs.
This is particularly important for writers who are dealing with rejection after rejection or who have to show up a day job week after week. These few little tips can drastically add to your happiness.
Have To vs Get To:
What areas in your life do you feel and say “I have to”? For example,”I have to go to work.” Change it to “I get to go to work,” and see how different you feel. Now, change the rest of your “have to’s” into “get to’s” and try your new perspective on for size.
I Can’t vs How Can I?
What areas do you limit your ability to truly be authentic to what you want and your ability to feel joy? Changing terminology allows the brain to stop shutting off possibilities and instead look for ways to create the things you desire. What do you feel limited about? Does asking “how can I?” change the way you feel about it?
Changing Your “What ifs”!
Many times we use “What ifs” in a negative way. For example, people say “what if I get fired”, “what if my relationship goes bad”, and so on and so on. These “what ifs” take away our ability to feel joy because they stop us from doing what we really want in life out of fear of “what if”. Try turning your “what ifs” into POSITIVE ones! “What if you get a promotion?” and “What if you get an offer?”.
Remember, the unconscious mind is powerful and will LOOK FOR whatever you tell it to look for. By saying “What if something amazing happens?” your mind automatically will begin scanning your life for amazing things!
I hope that you’ll join me in the MindDesign Author’s Academy for deeper work on limiting beliefs and perspective. Let me know how this works for you at firstname.lastname@example.org. I’d love to hear from you.